Cliche as it is to say, a lot can happen in 24 hours. Hell, while 24 hours can be a life-changing experience, a whole lifetime can alter in the matter of a few seconds. While 8 years seems to have slipped by like a drunken blur, it is a matter of 24 hours that managed to change absolutely everything. 8 years ago today I was in a car, driving to get the Parsons’ Breakfast of Champions (a pile of doughnuts and a gallon of chocolate milk that never seemed to be big enough). It was the summer to be, the cherry on top of a most brilliant year. Graduation for the eldest boys, many dance awards for our sister with the promise of academic success for her in the remaining years of High School, and being at the top of the food chain as a 5th grader for our youngest brother. Many vacations rolled into one incredible summer, with the promise of a couple of weeks in Utah with the family, and our first time to Yellowstone National Park to sum it all up. It was going to be a great send off for a fantastic year, and an expected door to more promise. But as the title of this blog states, the matter of a year didn’t matter, it was the sum of a mere 24 hours.
8 years ago from this very moment, I woke up late. We were sleeping on the floor of my grandparents house in Logan, UT. We were in the midst of a family extravaganza that we as children loved, but I’m sure our fathers wanted to stay clear from as much as possible. My dad returned home to Portland the day before, exhausted from our previous vacation, and needing to return back to work. My mom was upstairs shuffling around the kitchen with my aunts, preparing for our next adventure to Bear Lake. My brother rolls over, and in the motion of rolling from one side of the pillow to the next, groans that I need to get up to grab breakfast. He trailed off with more important details as his face disappeared into the newer side of his pillow, and so I shuffled out of the blankets and go upstairs to find out the specifics from my mother. She was very busy, I followed her around for a solid 20 minutes trying to extract breakfast from her, but the moment she would stop to talk to me another crucial element of our trip would seem to go out the window. It was at the moment that I could tell she was about to rip her hair out that I noticed my sister standing at the entrance to the kitchen with a list in one hand and the car keys in the other. She was looking at me as if I was completely missing the point, it took me a second to realize that I was. I ran downstairs and put on a pair of jeans and a cap, and rushed back up stairs to relinquish the keys from my unlicensed sister and we jumped into the car.
The thing that I love about Logan, UT is that it is a small town full of the kindest people, a valley surrounded by mountains tucked away. It always felt like it was an oasis of adventure and relaxation that was waiting for our family every summer. Driving to the grocer’s that morning, despite my desperate hunger, I took my time. Soaking in the warm sunshine and comfortable, dry heat. As we passed the quaint houses along the street, my sister and I debated on who was the better driver, me or my brother. We both knew that neither of us were good drivers, but I made a solemn effort to argue my case. She humored me… then she humbled me. She was always good at that, more so the humbling part. I was still arguing my driving etiquette when we jumped out of the car. I knew she wasn’t listening anymore, because she bolted right into the store, but that didn’t stop me from trying to convince myself.
The store was small and charming. It was the kind of store that if it could, would be spelled in a pseudoarchaic way, like ye “olde shoppe.” The store had a bell on top of the door, alerting the clerk of customers’ arrival. I still remember the sound of that bell, it rings as clear as day to me even as I am typing this now. There were only 4 aisles, and a single row of coolers. The clerk was at the check out counter, chatting it up with a patron about how hot the summer was going to be. My sister was already in the aisle we needed to be in as I groaned just thinking about the heat at Bear Lake. As much as I loved our traditional family reunion spot, the heated nights at Bear Lake were a nightmare. I remember countless vacations where I would debate on sleeping without the sheets to escape the heat of the condo lofts, or bundle up the covers to keep my sun burn, that I always seemed to manage every summer, from being exposed to the mosquitos that seemed to slip in every night despite the obstacles. Though this was only one miserable element in a sea of oppositely bright memories from Bear Lake, it was enough to distract me from our mission; breakfast. My sister made a coughing noise, and snapped me back into reality. I joined her in the aisle and we gazed at the surprising amount of options for our breakfast of doughnuts. While it took me a matter of minutes to decipher what we could get as the most bank for our buck, it took my sister a mere 5 seconds before she snagged the bag of chocolate frosted and moved onto the milk section. I made her wait, and she was gracious enough to humor my pride as I figured it out for myself. I confirmed she was right, and we both rushed to grab the swiss chocolate milk and get back up to the house. On the ride up, I continued to try and persuade her that my driving was better than my brother’s, but as per usual, she had many exhibits to prove that I was wrong.
The rest of the packing was a blur. A good majority of my family was able to pack up and drive through the canyon to arrive at the lake earlier that day. But since my family was usually at the tail-end of speed, and the foresight of preparation, we were almost always last in the race to arrive. But around 4 o’clock we had received the last phone call from family members making their last request to bring things they had forgotten, and we were finally able to load up the car. My job was to install the DVD system, a miniature television set that hooked up through the cigarette lighter of the car, and strapped to the headrests of the driver and passenger’s seats. It was a simple task, but I prided myself on how much more efficient I was at it than my siblings. Everyone else always managed to install it, but it was never straight enough. We piled into the car, some of my cousins, my sister and I. My mom started the car, and we instantly started arguing about which movie to watch as we drove through the canyon. Since I was in the passenger seat, I fought for the least interesting movie, a plight that my family saw through in an instant. They decided on The DaVinci Code, a popular movie from that year. I remember listening to Tom Hanks’ interpretation of the Robert Langdon character, and watched the walls of the canyon slide by. The growth of the trees was always so breathtaking. There were parts of the canyon where they grew over the road, like a tunnel of leaves taking you to some magical land. The rocks of the canyon walls grew like relics to a secret age, lined with brush and hidden wildlife. I could never make it all the way through the canyon, I always fell asleep 20 minutes in. The curves of the road and the majestic beauty of the canyon itself was lulling, like a mother’s lullaby. But then we hit the descent into Garden City and the sensation jolted me awake, that and the sound of gunshots and yelling from Sir Ian McKellen. As the sun was on it’s last breath of sky, we drove through the many streets I had come to love as a child on vacation. We pulled up to the resort, and as my mom got out to check us into our condo, I got out of the car to join my cousins in the back to finish the movie. Unfortunately this did not have the desired result, and my mother mistook my movement as volunteering to escort her into the resort’s office. I sighed and joined her.
Most of my family had to wait for their condos to be ready, due to conflicting schedules with the timeshare in place, and so a family friend offered their cabin on top of the hill for temporary housing. When we pictured this house, we thought it would be a cabin with enough floor space for sardine-style sleeping bag arrangements. We unpacked fairly fast, with my Parsons approach to unloading. Which is to carry as many things as humanly possible so as to avoid making more trips than needed. Once we were settled, the family on top of the hill called and we came to the conclusion that we needed to eat dinner at LeBeau’s, one of the best milkshake establishments I have ever come to know. Of course we would suffer through their substantially mediocre burgers, and enjoy their incredible fries with their out-of-this-world fry sauce. But mostly we were in it for the ice cream in a cup. We drove up to the house on the hillside to pick up some of the straggling family members at the cabin, and soon realized that this cabin was no mere square of lincoln logs, but a mansion worthy of a king among vacationers. Yes, it was made of logs. But from the size of the thing, it had to have been made from several of those giant California Red’s, you know, the trees where you can drive your car through? The place was huge to say the least. There were at least 12 rooms, a professional-grade kitchen, high-end appliances, and enough entertainment space to make a child with a fresh pair of running legs happy for weeks. Pool table, gaming system, large flat-screen TV’s. Clearly those of us who were down in the valley got the short end of the stick. Needless to say, we spent some time touring the grounds before we left for dinner.
As we stepped into the car, an argument began between the cousins, and filtered through the car as we drove back down to the valley to eat. The angered tension was palpable, even the parents in the front rows of the Tahoe were starting to get red with each other. I don’t believe the term “hangry” was around back then, but it doesn’t mean we weren’t experiencing it. We were all packed into the car, some of us sitting on the floor and others on laps. My sister had one of our youngest cousins on her lap. My sister loved taking care of the younger kids. She was always happiest when she could occupy and make happy with the smaller cousins. In fact, that was the only time I ever saw my sister smiling, was when she was taking care of the little ones. As I sat absorbing all of the murmuring, my stomach raged, a storm of rumbling tides of angst. But amidst the mumblings of the starving troops, one of my youngest cousins started to sing a song. It was a song from a children’s primary hymnal. Her voice was so young and innocent, that kind of sound that floats in the air and you don’t realize it is there until you feel it hit your heart. The car grew silent, and when all of us were still, she said, “My teacher said that when things go bad, just sing a primary song, and the spirit comes.” Of course in the moment, a good majority of us rolled our eyes. But it made us stop arguing for the moment nonetheless.
We finally made our mark at LeBeau’s for the night, my family the horde of starving locusts that we were. We sat on top of picnic tables as we watched the sun disappear. My sister still had our cousin on her lap, only to disappear to play with all of the younger kids, my youngest brother included, on the rusted play structure in back of the restaurant. I sipped on my mint chocolate chip milkshake thinking that this was going to be the best summer, starting with the day at the beach we were going to have the next day. We made our way home and felt the sugar kick in. Our parents must have notice too, because they sent us outside to play. Among the roaring crickets and the warm breeze from the lake front’s tide, we zigged and we zagged between the giant trees of the park outside of the condo. The lamps that lined the concrete path remained lit, allowing us to stay out past our bedtime playing tag in the dark of the night. We climbed trees to avoid being tagged, we danced around barbecues and picnic tables, and we screamed and we laughed until our legs ran out of energy. What really ended the game, though, was an argument between my youngest brother and sister. My sister wasn’t stupid, as you may have already guessed, and so whenever she was tagged, she went for the slowest runner, who so happened to be my brother. It wasn’t his level of athleticism that was his downfall, it was merely the fact that he was the youngest and the shortest. My brother caught on to her strategy, after being tagged by her for the 10th time in a row, and started to scream at her. The game broke up, and we all started to trickle back inside. I stayed behind to console my brother. My sister continued to taunt him from a couple of paces ahead, but we held back abad let her cries of self-proclaimed victory disappear into the night. Among the fading lamps of the park, I knelt down to my brother and asked him what was wrong. He told me he was tired of our sister picking on him, and that it made him feel bad. I told him that that was what sisters do, that there was no stopping it. I told him that the only thing he could control was how he took it, and I suggested that he just let it roll off of his shoulder. Now, being the age that he was, I’m sure that these were just empty words. I’m sure while my lips were yapping, he was plotting his revenge. But despite whatever he heard and whatever I said, we both headed upstairs to pass out watching SpongeBob Squarepants, with false expectations of what the next day had in store for us.
I woke up the next morning and everyone was already up. I quickly relieved my anxious bladder and headed downstairs to partake in the buffet of Capn’ Crunch, Trix and Lucky Charms. I was always partial to Trix, mostly because my mom never bought it for us. I remember the taste of that artificial, fruity batch of sugar and the smell of sunscreen as my family members bathed each other in it in the living room. After breakfast I helped blow up some of the flotation devices. I was always acknowledged for my extremely large lung capacity, and how I could blow up a ring or raft in the matter of a few seconds. I can still taste the bitter plastic as it brushed up against my face, thinking of ways I could prevent my spit from showing up on the inside of the ring. In no time at all we were packed up and ready to head down to the lake front we called “the beach.” My aunt and uncle brought their 4×4 and mini trailer, allowing us to transport a good majority of our crap from the condo to the beach without too much trouble. While they shuttled our belongings to the water, my mom sent us on an errand to purchase some t-shirts we would be using for a craft latter that day. We were able to bring our bikes with us on this trip, so riding to and from each other’s condos, or to the pool or mini-golf course, would be way more fun and efficient. So we took our bikes, my cousins and I, and we set out to the crafting lodge to purchase our t-shirts. The breeze felt amazing as we sped along the sidewalks of the resort. Normally we would be panting and sweating as we trudged along the paths leading from one activity to the next, but our bikes gave us this new sense of freedom. I thought about all of the possibilities we had with these bikes. We no longer had to spend 10 minutes at a time going from one family’s condo to the next. If we wanted to go to the video store at the resort’s office and with our hard-earned allowance rent an animation none of the adults wanted to watch and purchase some ice cream bars we would inevitably regret ingesting, we didn’t need to ask our parents to drive us over, we could just bike. It was like driving the car for the first time as a licensed driver, the horizon become a mark of freedom. I smiled as we zoomed past all of the brown condos, and took a big breath in as a breeze carrying the scent of the lake swarmed the air. Everything was perfect.
Soon after our errands, we awaited the green light for our decent onto the beach. Our uncles were setting up the canopy, the fathers unloading their wave-runners, and we couldn’t go down until our land was claimed for the day. When it was time, we ran. We passed the soft green of the vast lawn behind the condos, where for many years we had played baseball, soccer, and tag. We zoomed through the play structure where we had spent many nights waiting for the metal to cool down from the sun, and play our games of pirates, lava tag, and sometimes even a simple game of pretend house. We made our way through the seemingly vast amount of sand until we reached the row of canopies belonging to our family. We plopped our things down and made for the water, each of us claiming the flotation device that would be our’s for the day. We paddled as far as we could, past the buoy and into the wake zone. We floated there reminiscing about funny stories from the past, like one time when I went charging into the water claiming I could see without my glasses, only to realize too late, once my feet could no longer touch the bottom of the lake, that I still had my glasses on. We laughed and played Marco Polo. We soaked up as much water and sun as possible, and when we got too tired for water play, we took to the sands on the shore and started to make sand castles. Each of us begged our parents to take pictures of our own castles that were clearly better than the others, and always disappointed that they looked worse on the camera than they did in real life. It was at the point that I was giving my castle a moat that I went into a state of mind where I could only see, think and feel what was in the moment and right in front of me. In that moment I was hungry, and so I went to the canopy where all the snacks were, and I had myself some crackers and spray cheese, another luxury that my mom neglected to pay for outside of vacationing. As I sat indulging on my coveted snack, I listened to my mom and aunts talk to my sister as she sun bathed. She complained about her body image, how she felt that she was too fat. My mom and aunts were quick to jump in and tell her that she was in the most pristine condition of her life, that she was truly beautiful in this moment, and that she should appreciate how she looked now more than anything. They talked about how they wished they had appreciated the shape they were in when they had healthy bodies. I remember looking at my sister when things went silent, and thinking that she really did look like an angel. I had an impulse to kick sand on her. But I refrained. I wish I had, though, maybe things would have turned out different.
The day continued like this for a few hours. The winds began to pick up, and the waves got bigger. I was still in my state of self absorption, playing in the sand making architectural advances to my castle when my sister and cousins went out onto a raft that my uncle brought with him. I paid no mind to them. My cousins invited me out onto the water one last time, and I joined them on my noodle as we paddled out towards the buoy. We saw my sister and cousins on the raft, and we waved as they rode the waves further away from us. I got tired, and felt a twinge of hunger again, so I paddled back to shore, wrapped my towel around me, and sifted through the bag of snacks for something that would satisfy my hunger. This was the 24th hour. This is when everything changed. At noon the day before, I was just waking up on the floor of my grandparents, groggy and reluctant to venture out with my sister to get doughnuts, and now I knelt down selfishly looking for Oreos or cheese Ritz Bitz. It only took one second to hear her voice, one of my other cousins’. She was wet, and she looked as if she had done something wrong, like step on her sister’s sand castle or broken a sea shell. She was shivering. I remember her words exactly.
“Mom… She didn’t come up. Mallory never came up from under the water.”
My aunt started to question her, but I didn’t wait around to hear the answers. I ran to the water, and pushed through every wave I could to get to where she was. The only thing was, I had no idea where to go. I remember feeling angry that the water was so difficult to run through. Every panicked spring of my leg pushing through the lake as if it were some thick gelatin. I wanted to sift through every inch of that water, like a prospector for gold, only it wasn’t for something as meaningless as gold that I was after, it was my sister. I waded through that water, careful of where I was stepping, for what seemed like an eternity. My aunts and uncles were doing the same, combing the shores for her., screaming her name. One of my aunts did the same, adding a few choice words that I can still hear in my head to this day. I have never felt more hopeless than I did in that moment, searching for the needle in the haystack. Among my panicked sweeps, I turned my head to the sound of a wave runner. My uncle had commandeered one, and came up to me. He reached out his hand and told me to get on. He had me put on a life jacket, and we zoomed through the water attempting to locate any sign of my sister. We eventually went so far out that the screams of my family faded away. We stopped occasionally to canvas specific spots where the current had settled, but they proved to be useless. It was only in those moments that I took the time to call out to her or God, pleading for this not to happen. I remember promising that I would stop doing all of the stupid things I was doing in my life, that I would dedicate my entire life to whatever service I could if she could just pop up. I could tell that every second mattered, because my uncle stopped for only a few seconds at a time before speeding to another area. His movement was precise, and yet I could tell he was as desperate as I was to finding her. The water was too thick to see through, and the winds were picking up more and more. Eventually we gave up and headed back to shore, realizing that looking out this far would be useless. I never realized it until now, but my uncle took me away from much of the horror on that beach, he made me feel relatively useful in a time where I, in reality, could do nothing. I will always be thankful to him for that, among other things.
Another uncle was waiting for us to see if we saw anything, he could tell from our faces that we had as much luck as he did. As he helped me down into the water, I looked around and saw hordes of people on the beach gathering underneath their canopies. I looked at them and wanted to scream “HELP US, HELP US FIND HER!” but they just stood and watched. The more bodies in the water searching for her, meant more of a chance of finding her, I couldn’t believe they were just standing and watching. I thought to myself, “I guess that’s something that a good majority of humanity is good at, standing by and watching.” A thought that I continue to be reminded of any day I see the news, and even on the days where I walk by a piece of trash or an argument not worth having. I looked to the water and there were boats canvassing the waves. I trudged back to shore, watching the sand turn into mist under the waves from my feet. When I looked up, I saw my cousins staring into the water. I could tell, by the horrified look in their eyes, that they had found her. They covered their mouths as her body was lifted into the boat that found her. I didn’t dare look, I knew what I would be turning around to see just by the expression of their faces. I heard my mother screaming on the sands of the beach, a stranger grabbed my arm.
“Are you her son? Is that your mother?” she said, “Come here.”
The stranger pulled me over to her. She was kneeling down, her head in the sand, screaming. I never heard my mom scream like that, not ever. It was desperate and haunting. Like the sound of the bell at the grocer’s, or the smell of sunscreen from breakfast and the taste of plastic from the swimming toys, I can still hear her screams. The screams keep me awake many nights. I have to fall asleep to the television just to drown them out. My mom was screaming to God and my aunt who had died previously that year, to give her back, to give her daughter back. I knelt down beside her and tried to console her, but a child to their parent rarely knows how to do such a thing. I tried to hold her hand but she pushed me away. I laid in the sand next to her, and closed my eyes. Her screams imprinted onto the back of my eye-lids, the sound of murmuring vacationers gossiping and standing aside became white noise. I curled up into the fetal position and tried to disappear. I was brought back by a touch to my shoulder.
“Come with me. Take my cell phone and get in my car. Your uncle is in it waiting for you and your mom. GO!”
I was dumbfounded. I was a blank canvas, aching to be filled with something new, something that wasn’t this nightmare that I was in. I looked back and my mother was being escorted behind me. My aunt, a registered nurse, was trying to ask if my mom wanted her to ride in the ambulance. From whatever sanity my mother could muster, she nodded, and my aunt disappeared. We got into a strange car, my uncle at the driver’s seat, another of my cousins next to me in the back passenger seat. My mother was sat in the passenger seat up front, and it only took a click of her seat belt for my uncle to charge away from the beach. We drove through the sands, past the rusted play structure, across the grass, and right onto the rode. The ambulance was soon right in front of us, and we followed it like a shadow. The canyon was 31 miles long, but it lasted a life time. My mother wept “thank you’s” at cars as they cleared the road for us, and my uncle kept every ounce of his focus on never losing sight of the ambulance. I turned to my cousin, and recognized his face, for it resembled exactly how I felt, hopeless. The car was silent.
Midway through the canyon, amidst the horrific feeling of disappearing hope, there was a sudden change in the car. I could tell we all felt it, because we each looked around at each other the moment it happened. Calm. We felt peace that we hadn’t felt for hours, it was so palpable and sweet that we started to cry in a new way. It was a blanket of warmth, some form of comfort that came out of no where. We felt that everything was going to be okay. We mistook this feeling as some sort of good omen for the outcome of today’s events, but really it was her saying good-bye. I remember imagining this vision of all of us surrounding her hospital bed, saying, “you gave us quite a fright, Mallory. Don’t ever do that again.” But once the feeling faded, I knew that this vision would never come true. After an eternity in the canyon, we rushed down into the valley to the hospital. They put us into a tiny waiting room decorated in a supposedly comforting green wallpaper with water colorings of gardens and ponds. There was a bathroom, but it was only used to disappear into with prayer. The walls did nothing to keep the moans and screams from escaping. While we sat I finally noticed that all I had on was a swimsuit. I didn’t have shoes or a shirt, I could still feel the water from the lake. I wanted to rip it off and my skin with it, I didn’t want anything to do with that lake. The doctor came in. We fetched my mom from the bathroom, and sat around the doctor as he said, “We did everything we could…” His words landed like the pun of some awful joke. I wanted to hit him for sounding so casual. My aunt was on the phone with my dad, who was miles away. Her scream is one of the many that I can never forget. My uncle threw a chair across the room and the doctor left. It was then that I decided that I could no longer try to be a part of this world. I did not want to be hurt by it any more. I shut down and turned myself off, like a switch from human to zombie, I was a dead man walking among the living. Family members hugged me, attempted to console me, but they might as well have been talking to a statue. They allowed us to see my sister. My mother went first. While she was gone, the rest of my family showed up, my two brothers, my cousins, aunts and uncles. We filled the waiting room like we did LeBeau’s, we were locusts. My brothers looked miserable, I could tell that they wanted to know everything, but all I could offer them were what was inside of my eyes. Pain and sorrow. Eventually the doctor felt that my mother had had enough time alone with her, and he came out to retrieve one more family member to be with her. Surprisingly, my brother elected me. I turned to the hallway towards that forlorn automatic door, and walked one of the longest walks I have ever had to make. The door opened like the stone of a tomb, and the smell of sanitized death overwhelmed me. I passed many curtains, closed, guarding the secret miseries of other victims. One curtain was open, and it was the secret that was waiting for me. I looked in to see my mother, holding the hand of my sister. My sister laid there, like she was asleep. Her skin pale and ice cold. I sat beside my mother, and she gave me my sister’s hand. Her hand clenched around my own, as if she was holding it. I collapsed and fell to the floor.
Pieces of the story of how my sister’s life was tragically ended came together, like pieces of a puzzle that you don’t want to see the picture of. Family offered it to us like sacrifices, offerings that part of us wanted, but the other part wanted nothing to do with. In the end, my sister was a hero of sorts. When the winds of the lake front got too powerful, the raft got away from my sister and our youngest cousin, and in the struggle to stay afloat, my sister chose my cousin’s life over her own, keeping her above water with her own strength until she couldn’t give anymore. I will forever hold Mallory as my role model for her effort to put the needs of others above her own. Mind you, she had normal human being tendencies, like that of pestering her younger brother. But her true character is reflected in her final act. In hindsight, knowing she struggled to save another life comforts me, but never enough to remember that there is a place setting that will never be filled, or a phone call for advice that I will never be able to make. But she, along with an infinite amount of possibilities, a realm of choices and stories, was snuffed out.
I could go on about how the rest of that night went on. How I tried to console the mass of texts from friends swarming us for the latest gossip on what had happened, instead of respecting the news for what it was and offering respected silence. The curtain of that horrific room slid back and forth so many times that it became a song, a lament of family and friends offering their condolences, their religious philosophies, and yes, even unwelcome advice. But eventually we had to leave, and so we packed up and piled into the very same car I had driven with my sister the day before. 24 hours was all it took for me to lose my sister, and have my life altered in ways that are too countless to even fathom. But as I sat down, anxious to close my eyes and dismiss this day as a nightmare, I read a little plaque that hung above the nightstand of wherever it was that I slept that night, and it read,
“In the end, all that matters is family.”
So that is the cautionary tale of this post, of this narrative to solely the worst day of my life. Not a day goes by where I don’t wish I could have told my sister that I loved her, just one more time. Maybe if I had kicked the sand in her face while she was sunbathing, maybe she would have gotten angry and chased me, maybe she wouldn’t have been in a mood to take my cousins out onto that damned raft. Regardless of the could have, should have’s, I learned a very valuable lesson. You can not wait for regret to knock on your door, before you act on the goodwill of your heart. That in the end, family really is all that matters. A collection of people that care for you, that surround you with their presence and their love. Whether that be in kinship or in friendship, surround yourselves and surround others with all that you are. Do not wait another second. Tell someone that you love them. Don’t be like the people on the beach, watching in horror as it passes by. Take action, run towards what brings you happiness and what brings on the greater good. Stop living in fear and run after the betterment of your own life and that of others. Don’t coast on the coattails of something easy, because once you arrive at the edge of that breeze, the rest of the hurricane waits to swallow you up. Religious, political, however you interpret my message, take it with a grain of salt and make this world less of a nightmare and more of the dream that it could be. Stop offering advice or your opinion of what can and should be, because to those that are grieving it is only a conceded gift, some lamentable pacifier looking to remedy a situation that requires nothing but love and understanding. Because when deep in the heart of darkness, all that is needed is someONE not someTHING. 24 hours from now is the anniversary of my sister’s death. She spent her life watching over the little one’s, making them smile, and in the end saving them. Tomorrow, I plan on honoring what brought her joy, and making at least one person smile. You can make a lot happen within 24 hours.